mamanet16

Ok so I get a call from my son, he is hungry.  My son is going to be 20 years old next week. I tell him go to the kitchen and make something to eat, he lives with his cousin and about 8 other people. He tells me there is no food in the house and he hasn’t eaten since Sunday evening. And he doesn’t get paid until friday. This alsways happens he has no money, no car and still doesn’t have his own apartment with his pregnant girlfriend who is due in December and still lives with her parents. I understand being in a hole but he has no bills but $200.00 a month and he works full time and has no bills but a prepaid cell phone. I’m tired. When does my job end?  I’ve done the tough love thing.  Only to sit and worry that he is starving. I’ve done it many times and it seriously hurts your heart.  Today I went into a full blown anxiety attack, chest pain and shaking and legs quivering. I’m frickin nuts.  So ok, Dr. Phil, he would say hey he made a choice to blow all his money, which is and isnt true, I know he has been putting money into savings for a car and apartment but COME ON!!  Then I can also remember being hungry a few times when it was just he and I. I had too much pride to ask for help. I stayed hungry and I made sure I had food for him. So I went and gave him a few groceries and bread and milk and a couple bucks to tide him over until Thursday. And gave him another full lecture about budgeting. Sometimes I wish I could be that parent that says “tough luck mister, you got yourself into it  now get yourself out if it”, but I remember he is only human and here(in America) we have no logic when it comes to money. We depend on other people (baqnks and loans and credit cards) too much.  I love my son and I hope and pray he gets on track soon.

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